I don't know how to date...
It's true. Hear me out.
I was 19 when I met my ex. He lived 400 miles away and we did the whole long distance thing for 6 months. I then moved to the area of California he was living in and moved in with him. There wasn't a lot of convential dating involved. Sure we "dated" before living together but for us dating meant a weekend of intense time together spending as many minutes as we could cram into that weekend together doing as many things as possible (get your minds outta the gutter.. not like that). He was in So Cal? That meant Disneyland, Sea World, Universal, dinners with my family, dates out, movies, cuddling, kissing, talking, whatever. I was in Nor Cal? Horse races, dinners with family, San Francisco, Sacramento, dates out, movies, cuddling, kissing, talking, whatever. All normal dating stuff but crammed into 2 or 3 days together and then one of us would hop on a plane, go home, and not see each other for 2 or 3 weeks. That's not real dating. He told me he loved me very early on. He met my parents moments after meeting me in person (we met online - no not a dating site, it was a fluke). The whole thing moved fast and was intense in those "dating" months.
Before that, I dated a little but not a ton. I did have one other kind of relationship (rebound/crazy-status much?!) since my ex and I separated but even that wasn't conventional dating and was completely ridiculous.
So I don't know how to date. And I certainly don't know how to date someone that actually lives in the same county. Its always been different.
I mean do you talk on the phone daily? Is a day (or multiple days) of just texting normal? Is one date a week typical? Even when the person lives 20 minutes or less from you?
I don't know. This is a whole new ballgame for me.
But its fun. And I'll be honest... I kind of feel like I'm living those 20s I never lived since I moved in with a guy at 19, was engaged at 21 and married at 23. Now at 26, I'm actually dating like a normal 20-something.
[disclaimer... that is not to say there is anything wrong with getting married young. Plenty of people find the perfect (for them) person when they are young and stay happy and in love for their whole lives. Please understand I am not trying to be negative on that situation with that last paragraph. It would have been great and I would be happy to have that situation had my ex not continually put me down and emotionally abused me on a regular basis.]
Wanna give me some big girl, real life dating tips?! I'll take 'em! :)